Posted in Change, Debate, sex, Thoughts, Uncategorized, Women

Does it have to be like this?

 A ladies’ blog but everyone of both sexes are invited to read and comment if they wish.

As Jade Goody’s life ended earlier today, I wanted to highlight the plight of cervical cancer in a sensitive and appropriate way. Not to skirt around the edges, but to express taste and respect. With this in mind, I decided to write this poem, just letting the words come. Not intending or concerned about the prose being technically accurate or brilliant.

The question: Why does it have to be like this? When this is a potentially preventable cancer and if caught early, treatable to a very high degree of success? I am not giving exact figures here. The main intention is to get women to think about cervical screening and why they should go and why they do not.

Here are my personal thoughts in prose.


Does it have to be this way?

Needlessly dying, broken lives.

Men without women,

children without mothers.

Today another sadness and tragedy.

Needlessly dying, broken lives.

Tests without fear.

Tests without courage.

So we don’t bother for another day.

Needlessly dying, broken lives.

Procedure without dignity,

screening without modesty.

Who cares? Why go? It won’t happen to me.

Needlessly dying, broken lives.

But it does and it can,

without you knowing until it is too late.

Did it have to be like this?

No! It didn’t.

For the many, a life can be saved.

Does it have to be this way.


Dignity without pain,

procedure without shame.

But we need to know how this can feel better.

Needlessly dying, broken lives.

The highest training, the greatest skill,

then we can swallow the bitter pill.

Calmness without anxiety,

Willingness without nerves.

Care with sensitivity and compassion,

for our fears and concerns.

To help save our own lives.

This must be the way.

Does it have to be like this?

Needlessly dying, broken lives.

Comment with passion.

Discussion with honour.

This can change.

You can change.

We can then live.


( The pitfalls of cervical screening and why we don’t go. Please  discuss, debate and comment !)



Committed to the education of children and the health and human rights of women and mankind. I also enjoy taking photographs and sometimes I write poetry.

7 thoughts on “Does it have to be like this?

  1. It is pleasing to see that the interest in cervical screening has risen as a result of Jade’s sad illness and death. Let’s hope that her memorial is bigger than the amount of money that she understandably wished to leave her children.

  2. Thanks for this athinkingman and for commenting. I hope my words too will act as a catalyst for women to think this won’t happen to them. As it does and often the highest category is young women not old.
    Yes, I agree with your sentiments entirely. You have said this very well and with thought and compassion.
    Thanks for being the first lone bloke commenting on this delicate area of health and topic.
    I am glad that you felt able to read this.

  3. judging by the medical aftershock of Goody’s passing, it sounds like she might have inadvertently made a long-term difference for cancer prevention in the U.K.

  4. As a survivor of cervical cancer I can’t help wonder why we are still so far away from really doing anything about it. I write erotic stories for women. How is this relevant? If women were not so ashamed of their bodies and their sexuality … then perhaps we wouldn’t mind so much looking after it. ALL of it. There should be no shame.

  5. Let’s hope the Jade Goody publicity will have raised awareness and will make people go for the test. I do not hold with celebrity news but it did make me think. And yes, I WILL go although you may have to nag me. I am not exactly keen to do so.

  6. To coffemaker. Thanks for passing by. I think so too. I did read/ see a newspaper today saying something about a statue in London for her. I can think of many people though who deserves a statue more; to be fair.

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