(A TV programme, a discussion and the man’s Penis).
This blog is one I have taken sometime to think over before writing. It concerns a subject very sensitive and personal to men. Firstly, I want to explain why I, a woman have chosen to write about this topic and why I think it is important.
It all started with a TV programme watched last September 20th on BBC 3 called:
” My Penis and Everybody Else’s.”
This programme was serious, funny, sensitive and excellently well presented concerning a subject that men could relate too; that being the size of their genitals and why it mattered to them. The presenter was Lawrence Barraclough and I watched transfixed and absorbed as the programme un-folded. I came away from it thinking much about this subject, and how some comparisons could be made to women. Certainly I had learnt something more about men.
Before we discuss the programme in any detail, it is at this point, an opportune moment to say a little about myself, in relation to this extremely sensitive topic.
The penis and I have had a professional and on-going working relationship for over 20 yrs. I have talked about it, fitted tubes within it, applied appliances to it, inspected and assessed associated parts of it; bathed and sometimes applied medications on it . In fact there is little I have not done in relation to this piece of male equipment called by several names. but how much did I really know about the psyche whose apparatus it belonged to?
The penis is without doubt, a most wonderful feat of biological engineering and advanced plumbing. It’s dual action of urinary elimination and reproduction is without exception a very fine design. Because I deal with this part of the anatomy on such a frequent basis, I would like to think that I do a good job and men can feel comfortable with me. The more I know and understand, the hope is, the more confident the owner of this device will be happy with my care and can confide in me when things perhaps go a little wrong.
Now to the programme itself:
Lawrence (in the documentary) spent a lot of time trying to get men to talk about their penis: especially size. That hidden answer no-one wanted to reveal. He was very up-front about his own anatomical position on this point, but inspite of trying to engage men in conversation, he was met with a virtual blank every time. He went with a loud speaker to Hyde Park Speakers Corner, where he drew crowds, but only one person I recall actually dared to answer.
In his quest to encourage men to open up, he had a plan. Perhaps if blokes had anonymity then they might come foreword. A website was launched called,”Snap your Chap.” The aim, to have 100 photographs of ” Men’s tackle ” taken privately and in confidence, to send on-line to him. Those pictures would be part of an anatomical art exhibition at a London location. The purpose of this was to encourage men to see themselves as they really are; and lift a lid on this private world, hidden by boxer shorts and y-fronts to the outside world.
Sure enough he got his 100 photos and boy did they all look so different. He assembled them together and I couldn’t help but smile. Shafts, testicles and foreskins all pre-dominately displayed. If the penis could have talked, it may have been saying what is all the fuss about? Here I am: Don’t I look cute, or sexy, or just plain normal with my sagging scrotum and shafts in different sizes and some leaning to the left or right.
The exhibition was launched and a suitable venue was found by the Thames. Posters were displayed and advertising began. Men did come, whether fuelled by curiosity, or the beer that was provided. What was absolutely great about this programme was that men had a real opportunity to see how other guys looked. Helped along by the loosing action of the beer on the tongue;blokes stood and chatted and looked at the exhibition. They started talking to one another about a taboo subject, and realised their faithful companion was unique, yet in many ways just like the next. They had the opportunity to go away and take their own picture-in a private area, for the exhibition, and show their own willie to the people they had been talking to. Some were brave and ventured into new territory by doing just that. Very brave I thought:no-way would I have done that.
During the programme some of the reasons why men didn’t ask questions or talk about size was: they didn’t want to be labelled “Gay,” if they weren’t Gay. I have to stress here that homosexuality was not judged, or in anyway given a opinion about. Men simply stated that was just one of the reasons. Also, Lawrence interviewed men who had had penile enlargements and the general conclusion was; that it did not necessarily make them feel better about their size or themselves. I made a comparison at this point of women having breast enlargements. These silicone implants do not always make women feel better about their own body and self-esteem. The urge to go on and on with more cosmetic treatment can not only be costly, but does it really achieve the desired effect of personal happiness with ones self, or improve their self- esteem within society, or in their own personal relationships? I could see the connection between the two forms of biological self-improvement.
I saw as such a personal side to men never seen before. These tough big guys who perhaps had a little winkle tucked away, which gave them embarrassment and sensitivity, particularly in the quest of finding a partner stakes.
After the programme, I did have the opportunity to speak to one gentlemen about the documentary in the course of my work. When I had pronounced that his size was not small but medium, after various measurements had been taken, he was delighted. He said he would be announcing to his male relative over lunch that day, that he had been promoted from small to medium. We laughed about it and I said I was pleased I had made his day.
This programme was for me TV in its finest form. In my view, it was absolutely excellent. It wasn’t tacky and stupid, there was fun and humour. It tackled a serious subject well and made me think about how men must feel, if they are not particularly well-endowed. One guy, that was interviewed took it all in his stride. His conclusion was: that because his bits were small in the sex stakes, that just meant he had to be a cut about the rest in his imagination and drive when it came to sex: I think that just about summed it up for me.
“It’s not what yer got, it’s how you use it that counts.”
Good Luck boys!