This is a short blog following a conversation with a close relative who owns and runs a card shop. It concerns the psychology of men’s thinking -in his shop, when it comes to purchasing the annual christmas card for the lady in their life.
The family member will be refered to as A. I will be known as OTW.
A: ” Well, I shall be putting out the wife and girlfriend cards this week in a prominent display. I have 800 waiting to be sold, and they will all go this week.”
OTW: ” Gosh, haven’t they gone already? That is a lot of cards.”
A: “Men always leave it to the last minute. Every year it is the same. They think to themselves, better get the Misses a card otherwise there will be hell to pay.”
OTW: “Is it because men don’t care about their women?”
A: “No, not at all, we just think differently that’s all. Now with the lady’s it is completely the opposite. I am nearly out of those because they will buy in October and November. They will come into the shop and take time to choose at leisure. They look at the words, the picture. They will ruminate and ponder. The men, they are in and out like a flash: What have you got for the Misses mate?” “That will do nicely”, and out he goes.
OTW: So what kind of card does he go for then?”
A: The biggest!
OTW: “The biggest?”
A:” Yeap, I have a system knowing what will sell first. I put the biggest on the top part of the shelving. The man comes in, grabs the biggest first. That will do lovely mate, he says. He takes no time and hardly looks at it. It is a card so he is covered. He won’t get-it-in-the-neck this Christmas. That is sorted he tells me. Next will sell is the second biggest. I put the next size at the top and away they go, until only the 0.99p are left.”
OTW:” Isn’t that incredible. I would have never thought that. That just goes to show you that when it comes to how we women view things and the psychology of spending:men are different to women.
OTW: “So what happens when you run out?
A: ” There will always be individuals who are too late to buy. I close this Saturday afternoon. Pretty much everyone who wanted to have bought will have visited us by then.However, there will be a guys who speed up in their work van who then says:
Sod It, I shall have to try somewhere else fast.”
OTW: “Let’s hope he gets one then, otherwise he is in the …… and he won’t be getting anything under the mistletoe or his dinner.”
End of conversation.
I read today with interest another blogger-a bloke of course no less, who is about to contemplate his Christmas shopping only a few days before Christmas. I would like to get behind those thinking membranes to find out why men are so late with Christmas, or as in my nearest and dearest; leave me to do all the thinking, buying, writing and wrapping.
What do men really think of Christmas?Is it that they like to display their affection in other ways (SEX maybe likely-hey I’m game), if they could, rather than send a card that will end up in the bin, the recycle bucket in Tesco, or keepsake draw afterwards ? Are they really too lazy to care, too busy?Or are we ladies just too organised, so we get lumbered with all the hassle?
I finished my shopping today. My husband will no doubt have put thought into my gift, after I told him what I wanted. He purchased it within 20 mins today.Interestingly, he said he was having second thoughts about my card and considered getting another. I told him I’m sure the one he has is just fine.
Have fun everyone as you are doing the shopping.
And remember you lads, it’s the thought that counts not the size.
The Language of Love indeed!